If he's fucked up, he's either cheated on you or he's been a dickhead. The real question though is whether you can forgive him or not. Here's what needs to happen if or when your man fucks up and whether you can forgive him. Everyone deserves a second chance but make sure you're giving it to him for the right reasons.
Vent
Whether it's with yourself, a friend or the man in the firing line, get it out. Keeping all that anger inside you will just cause you to combust at a bad time. It's like blowing into an already full balloon. Basically, it's not going to end well.
Resist revenge.
Revenge, especially revenge sex, is possibly THE WORST thing you can do. They may say that getting under someone is the best way to get over someone else, but what you're actually doing is fucking with your emotions and making it less likely that you'll be getting back together with him any time soon. Don't sleep with his friends either. If it doesn't piss him off, you'll undoubtedly annoy someone else in the process. Unless he's a complete dick and deserves it wholly and totally, don't even bother.
Don't make him angry.
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Once he's angry, it's unlikely that he'll be queuing up to make amends with you any time soon. Try and discuss what he's done maturely. He may have a legitimate explanation for his wrongdoings. It'll also make him feel worse if you're not acting like an emotional lunatic. Keep calm, keep your shit together and make him explain himself.
Try not to make him anxious when he's around you.
If he is trying to make amends, try not to make him feel terrified every time he calls you. It'll put him on edge and ruin the vibe between you're trying to rebuild. Be strong, not crazy.
If it was with an ex of his...
Then fuck him. It's likely they're going to get back together, so don't waste your time. Give him a good hard slap as well if you feel the need. Get it all out.
If he didn't apologize.
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If he's thick enough not to realise what he's done wrong, then kick his sorry ass to the curb. No apology means no regrets. Instead of anger and hurt, employ feelings of pity because he's clearly pathetic.
It was a one-off.
Try and see his reasoning behind it. If he was hammered in a club and had no feelings for her, this should make a difference to your opinion. You may be filled with an overriding rage when he first admits it to you, but at least he's sorry and at least he admitted it to you of his own free will.
You just started dating.
It can go one of two ways here. You either attempt to start again from scratch or you get rid of him before he can upset you anymore. At least if you go into the relationship with some reservations, you'll be stronger if it does go wrong. Learn from the mistakes and build upon this.
