6 Words To Help Your Chances With Women - “Be the train, not the taxi.”
So, what the hell does these words have to do with going out on the pull?
Well, as you already know, the whole process of meeting women and getting dates can be complicated and confusing.
Where does this anxiety come from?
It comes from the three W’s:
Waiting. Wondering. Worrying.
- You wait to approach, get her number, and call
- You wonder if and how she’ll respond to you
- You worry about rejection
A great solution to all of this? That’s right.
Be the train, not the taxi.
Here’s how it works:
Dating Like a Taxi
So how does a taxi relate to its passengers?
Well, one way is by going around looking for passengers and quickly changing its schedule and course to cater to the passenger.
In the taxi-passenger relationship, the passenger is in control.
Where women are concerned, your natural tendency is to be a bit nervous when asking her out for the first time.
When you’re nervous, you have a fear of “messing up” when asking her out.
In order not to to ruin things, you may ask her these questions:
- What days are you free this week?
- Where do you want to go?
- What do you want to do?
Just like a good taxi man, you let her decide and you put her in control.
Not good.
Why Dating Like a Taxi is Risky
If she barely knows you and you’re trying to get her on a date, there's already loads of things she's unsure about.
She doesn’t know you that well. She may like you and she’s nervous about starting something new. Or, she may already have met someone new and she’s reluctant to get involved with anyone else who is new.
Either way, unless you strike gold and she’s in love with you from the start, she may find an excuse to not go out with you.
When you force her to set the date or make a plan, it’s that much easier for her to say no or back out later on.
Also, if you are only setting up dates after having elaborate email/text exchanges or phone calls, your investment of time and emotional energy in getting dates goes way up.
Dating Like a Train
In contrast to a taxi cab, a train has a set schedule and a set route (and sticks to it regardless of the passengers’ wishes).
Also, the train is most likely going to someplace more interesting than where a cab normally would go and it’s going there with or without the passenger.
In the train-passenger relationship, the train is in control.
If we apply this to the world of dating, you might do any or all of the following:
- Research a great place, restaurant, or event ahead of time
- Tell her you are “already going” and ask her if she wants to come along
- Give her a deadline to let you know if she can make it
Why This Works So Well
Why does this work so well?
This philosophy works so well is because it is simple.
You call, text, or email her a time, place, and fun reason to meet you out.
If she accepts, you’re good to go.
If she declines, you can try the same tactic again next week or with someone else.
Either way, it’s no big production on your part and you made it easy for her.
More importantly, it takes the pressure off of arranging a first or second outing (versus the typical long, drawn-out discussion about the what, where, and when of meeting up).
This idea is based on getting together for a pre-decided activity or event. There’s no complicated back and forth. Just an approach that says “Here’s something cool to do. Are you in?”
Anxiety Be Gone
If you use this method while playing the field a bit i.e a few different women at the same time, your anxiety will vanish. You're a train, you're going to go to these destinations/venues whether they hop on or not, so who's the loser? Either way it's not you.
So, until you find that special someone who makes you forget the rest, remember these six words and watch your dating life explode:
Be the train, not the taxi.
In Attraction Basics, by Jimmy Nickel