How To Woo A Chinese Girl, By A Chinese Girl Living In Ireland

You’ve met a cute Chinese girl and want to take action. But considering the different dating habits between westerners and Asian people, you might find that cultural heritage makes Chinese girls quite distinct in their way of behaviour. Here are several tips, based on personal experience, for you to chase after a Chinese girl.

Avoid Asking Questions Like: "Are You A Kung Fu Master?"

Like most other Chinese people, I have read lots of martial arts books and watched hundreds of movies since I was in middle school, and have developed a Kung Fu complex. However, over 99% of Chinese people don’t “have a good command of Kung Fu” including me, which is the most frequently asked question by westerners. Similar to Harry Potter and The Lord of the Rings, what would you think if we ask, “can you master a wand?” So the girl you met is not Bruce Lee, and I am 100% sure that she can’t fly through the air.

Take Things Slowly.

Once upon a time, a British boy invited one of my Chinese friends, Vivian, to have dinner. The dinner went very well and they had a good evening. When the after-dinner coffee was served, he sipped it and suddenly stretched out his hand to touch Vivian’s hand. Fortunately, Vivian was quick to respond and retracted her hand immediately. He insisted and tried it several times. In this way, the fist date turned out to be a Kung Fu tournament. What happened afterwards? Nothing! Never be too physically intimate or say, “I love you” too early, which would frighten her away, especially when she is a college girl with typical traditional Chinese thinking. Be patient and make a friend first.

Better To Know Some Chinese History.

Some dating experts have given useful advice, for example, speak some words in Chinese, or learn a Chinese song and sing it to her. Once, when I walked into a Café in my long traditional dress, an American guy said to me, “hello, I was reading a history book about the Song dynasty and was imagining what a Song woman would look like. Then you appeared, like walking from the Song dynasty.” We talked a lot afterwards and became good friends, even though I found out his book was about the Tang dynasty rather than the Song dynasty in the end. China is a historical and ancient country and Chinese people are enormously proud of their 5000 year history, and if you happen to know a little, you can go a long way.

Interest Contributes To Great Chemistry.

A positive attitude and interests are highly valued by Chinese people. Therefore the best way to impress her is to show how much you are interested in her and her cultural background by asking questions or encouraging her to ask you questions. Listening to her and getting her to talk about herself would encourage her to let her guard down and give you a definite advantage over other love rivals.

Have A Discussion About Becoming Boyfriend And Girlfriend.

Yes, don’t be too surprised! A Chinese girl would definitely expect you to sit her down and ask, "will you be my girlfriend?"

NEVER Call Her Parents By Their Actual Names.

When my friend Lin brought her European boyfriend home to meet her parents, everybody was shocked by his “Nihao, Wang Taitai”, which means “hello, Mrs. Wang”. Addressing elders by their actual names is considered rude and disrespectful in Chinese culture. When meeting her family members, two useful and frequently used words should be stored in your brain: shushu (uncle) and ayi (aunt). Usually, you should call her father shushu and her mother ayi. Chinese people are family-centered, so get to know more about her family. It sure would boost your chances of dating a Chinese girl successfully.

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