College is like being in a bubble. If you give your brain a bashing, there really is no other point in your life where you'll be in an environment surrounded purely by people of your own age. With college, of course, comes relationships of all types. Dating, hookups, friends with benefits, but at some point you might have a relationship; a real blood, sweat, and tears kind of show. But let's be honest and face the undeniable truth, 90% of the time relationships just don't work in college. Soon you'll be twenty-something and you'll laugh at the days when you cried, screamed Taylor Swift, scooped out the last two tubs of Ben & Jerrys and sent angry drunken messages to your ex. Here's why college relationships just don't work out.
1) Cheating Is More Likely
A lot of the time, relationships don't work in college because of cheating. Realistically, when people are let loose at college, they're straight out of school and they want to be wild and free. If you're looking for parties in college, there's always something going on and with binge drinking leading to many unplanned hook-ups, it's the number one reason why college relationships fail. There's a lot of temptation out there kids.
2) You'll Miss Out On Partying Opportunities
In college, some students feel it's just not the right time to tie yourself down to one person when there are hundreds of other interesting guys/girls out there to experience. It's a time to have fun and experiment without strings and commitment while you're young. College is the time for partying and not worrying about the consequences.
3) Rumours Will Run Rife
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It doesn't matter how big your college might be, ultimately we all stay within the same run of the mill groups of people where rumours spread and more serious things like STDs sadly, spread too. Sometimes these rumours begin out of jealousy or bitterness, but once they spread, they're enough to end a relationship and in college you'll always come across a petty, bitter minded person.
4) Balancing Time
A huge factor in why college relationships don't work out, because some of us just can't balance our time correctly. When you have lectures, labs, small groups, seminars, assignments, outside activities, societies, volunteer charity work (the CV needs sprucing up here and there...) and a part time job on your hands, things can get messy and it can be hard enough to balance hook ups and nights out. The time for a relationship just isn't there and if you do use all your spare time to spend on a partner, this can harm friendships and you don't want to go down that road.
5) Long Distance Love
A lot of the time relationships fail because of long distance. Some relationships can be continued on from school but when the two people are in separate colleges on opposite sides of the country, and they still decide they want to stay together, it usually doesn't work. Just don't do it to yourself, it's too much hassle for your college years.
6) One Partner Just Isn't That Interested
You will go through life and always meet someone who you might take a liking to, but they're just there for the sex; they don't want a commitment and sometimes they'll lead you to believe they want to be serious, when really, it's just for the sex. We've all seen the movie 'He's Just Not That Into You', maybe he wants an open relationship or maybe he doesn't, but either way, he's not really into you if he's not willing to commit.
7) No Common Ground
If both of you in the relationship have different ideas of how you want to live your life both in college and after college, then you have a problem. It'll never work out unless one is willing to compromise, but this is difficult when you're young and in college. For example, if one of you wants to work or do a Masters and the other wants to travel and see the world before settling down. It's the sole destroyer of most college relationships but hey, it was never meant to be anyway. Plenty more fish in the sea and all that.
