The words sure it’s only a bit of craic spring to mind. You possibly had intended it being an isolated shift but suddenly one text message turns into three and before you know it you are leaving a toothbrush in their bathroom and spooning them every second night. The accusations are flying and you’re friends look like this when they are talking about both of you...
But as far as you’re concerned it is an unofficial thing that is only a bit of fun. Friends with benefits, f**k buddies, call it what want but there is a line and when it is crossed you are heading for one place and one place only. Couplesville. How do you know you are in such a place? Well here is the litmus test. Some signs that prove that you are no longer a single pringle and in fact have a boyfriend/girlfriend you didn't really know about.
1: You wear his Clothes.
Now I don't mean in a walk of shame ''I have nothing but my body-con'' kind of way. Yeah its okay if you steal borrow his jumper then. Its plausible. Irish weather and a ten minute walk home justifies wearing his Jack Wills hoodie but sitting around in his bedroom wearing his hoodie even though you have your own clothes may elude to the fact that this dude is more than a friend.
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2: You spend actual time with each other
Both of you do stuff together that does not revolve around sex. Cinema dates, going for coffee or just binge watching your favourite TV show highlight that there is quite possibly more happening than just friends with benefits.
3: You have no idea when you were on Tinder last.
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Quite frankly you couldn't care less who matched with or what creepy message they have left in your inbox. Guess why? Because you already have your match (for now anyway) so tinder is rendered useless.
4: The text messages are less dirty and more sentimental
You see here it is plain and simple. If you are physically attracted to someone but emotionally not attached then the likelihood is that your messages will be of the sexting genre. However as soon as the messages come filled with care and concern about how your day went or that assignment you had to hand up then it is time to accept that you are on your way to attachment city.
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5: You sleep together without actually 'sleeping together'
Yes you stay over sometimes. Yes you spoon each other and No you don't always have to have sex. Sounds like a healthy R E L A T I O N S H I P to me.
6: You Can't Remember The Last Person You Shifted That Wasn't Them
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Was it that dude from Coppers, was it that girl at that weird new years eve party you went to? Either way apart from the chance of getting with Jonny Depp or his female equivalent on your next night out you are both pretty content shifting each other. Nawwww.
7: You have your own side in his bed.
Not only do you have your own side in his bed but also a spare toothbrush in bathroom, and some makeup removal stuff. Two words. Domestic bliss.
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8: You Can Kiss Each other Without Presuming It Will Lead Somewhere Else
If you are kissing your f**k buddy then it is obvious to the world and its mother that things are going somewhere and probably fast. However if you are kissing someone to be affectionate while watching the latest episode of game of thrones then you have entered another ball game completely.
I hoped that helped the penny drop.
Welcome to relationship-ville population: You. And them.
