When you're in a relationship with someone you really care about, it can freak you out a little if feelings of insecurity start to creep in. This is completely normal, but it's best to identify these feelings and to try not to bury them. Read on to find out if any of these reasons relate to you, and how to deal with them.
1. It Started Off Unrealistically
Did you guys start going out during the summer or a time when both of your schedules were kinda empty? And it was great, right? Well unfortunately everyday life steps in eventually, and if he's busier than he was when you started dating, don't freak out and think he doesn't like you anymore. Unless he can NEVER see you, then relax. It'll make the time when you do see each other even better.
2. Your Self-Esteem Is Low
People who genuinely believe in themselves (without any trace of arrogance) and know that they deserve their boyfriend probably won't be insecure in their relationship. Insecurity stems from not feeling good enough, and feeling that your boyfriend will realise this and leave you. Would you be attracted to someone like that? Didn't think so. You gotta love yourself first before anyone else can.
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3. You're Too Needy
If you call him more than he calls you and you're the one always making the plans, then eventually you'll begin to feel very insecure in your relationship. Take a step back and see if they make the effort. If they don't, you're better off with someone who will. Girl, you're too good for this sh*t...
4. Your/His Friends Are Toxic
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5. You're Over-Analyzing Everything
Maybe you're just a natural worrier and stress easily over things. This will not be good if you want a healthy, happy and fun relationship. Over-thinking every detail will not only drive you crazy but it will drive him away. Try to relax and enjoy your relationship...
6. You're Jealous
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Jealousy can be a dangerous and ugly emotion. In a lot of cases it can go back to a lack of self-esteem. You're beautiful, intelligent and so much fun, so why should you be jealous of anyone else?! If someone is with you then you have to trust it's because they see how great you are. Top tip: just enjoy it.
7. He Is Your Main Focus
Someone with a busy life won't have time to be feeling insecure. If you surround yourself with family, your mates, school, hobbies and me time, you'll feel so fulfilled and happy that you won't have a spare second to worry about your relationship. And a busy, happy person is very attractive.
8. You're Wearing Rose-Tinted Glasses
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You might think that your boyfriend is the most amazing person ever. And in a way he probably is. But he's only human and he's flawed just like the rest of us. If you think that he is too good for you, stop that right now. A relationship is equal partnership, you guys are a team. He isn't as fantastic as you're making him out to be, so don't let your insecurities take over.
9. He's Not A Nice Guy
After saying all of that, it could be that the person that you're in a relationship with isn't actually very nice. Sometimes your gut will let you know when there's something off with them. If you spend most of your time feeling insecure around them and you weren't like this before, then it's probably something to do with them. Always remember that you deserve to be with someone who makes you feel happy and secure and vice versa.
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