When Choosy Is Too Choosy

Being choosy is a good thing in most cases. There are some people that don't really mind what someone looks like or how they act, as long as they're good to go then that's all that's needed. But for a lot of people there's one or two things that will just turn them away immediately. There's an ideal middle ground where you're discerning but not asking for the moon. Unfortunately it's not that easy to just ignore when you are too picky.

Personally I hate it when people are on their phones too much and when they scrape their teeth off the fork. They're instant turn offs for me and that's when the glass breaks and I start to see other things. I don't think that's too picky, I've gotten over it because it's pretty hard to find people that aren't going to be on their phones all the time but I've known people to say no to solid beauties because of something small. I'm still working on the fork one though. It's horrible.

Men can be ridiculously discerning and they're even worse when it comes to actually committing to someone. The same obviously goes for women, a popular one amongst the women I know is that men under six foot are a no-go and for men it's when women have a grating voice, high pitched and cuts the ear. Both of these are things that physically can't be helped but people are just very fucking picky.

When it's all well and good to be able to meet up with someone and just have fun but an extended amount of time is too much for them that's when you kinda need to have a look at whether it's a bit unfair to dislike someone for that.

Some wait months or years for a dateable person to come along, someone that matches all of your likes but the problem that comes with that is that you're really unlikely to find anyone that doesn't annoy you in some way. It's just what happens. If you can manage to find someone that's absolutely perfect then congratulations but in most cases you won't be dating for a really long time.

The other side is that choosy people are often horrible when it comes to chatting to the desired sex. They aren't used to it and when someone is 'worthy' of talking to they get shot down immediately because they haven't got a clue how to flirt. You deny yourself the chance to enjoy the chase with someone. You might not get together with them and it could go badly but it's still kinda fun or you can laugh about it later. They never have to be perfect beings for you to be able to hang out and see where it goes.

If you haven't found anyone dateable or denied yourself from going on one within the last eight months you might need to evaluate your attractions. There's always gonna be someone around you that you kinda like. In the end you might just be plain not attracted to someone and that's completely understandable but the fun is in the chase and you might be surprised to find that you're having fun. Sometimes it's just about looking past your choosy nature.