Breakups are tough and moving on can suck. It's more difficult to do when your ex suddenly comes back into your life, wanting to get back together. But, just because they want to get back with you, that doesn't mean that you should drop everything in your life and go be with them. You broke up for a reason, remember? Here are just a few things to think about before you even consider getting back with your ex:
1) They Hurt You Once, What's Stopping Them From Doing It Again?
Once the trust is broken between two people, it can be difficult to rebuild it. If you are seriously considering getting back together with your ex, you need to be sure that you're both on the same page and that there's no chance that either of you are going to make the same mistakes again. But, you can't know that. All you know is how you feel. Are you really ready to open yourself up to a person who has already hurt you and trust them not to do it again?
2) They're Toxic
Is this the first time that you've broken up? If you're the type of couple who constantly breaks up and gets back together, you should just take a step back and look at your relationship. It's clearly not working. You're wearing the other down. You deserve happiness, they had their chance to make you happy and they screwed it up. Why let that toxicity back into your life?
3) Are You Afraid Of Being Alone?
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4) Why Did You Break Up?
Was there cheating involved? Did one of you betray the other? Did you simply fall out of love? Are the reasons you broke up still relevant now? Sometimes it's hard to accept the past, but it's sometimes easy to pretend it didn't happen. The same issues are going to come up. Unless you want to work through all those past mistakes, to forgive and forget - which means never bringing it up again - there's no point even considering getting back together.
5) They Might Never Be Who You Want Them To Be
You can't make people change, they have to want to make the changes themselves. People aren't perfect and you can't expect them to be. If you weren't able to accept your ex when you were together, how are you going to accept them and their flaws now? Unless you've changed what you wanted, you won't be able to. Instead, the two of you should be looking for people that suit you better. Quit living in the past, it's over, move on and look to the future.
