Love has no rules when it comes to age, but it's important to be sure you're in a relationship for the right reasons, not just sex. If you feel like the following points apply to you, maybe it's time to evaluate whether the age gap with your partner is a problem...
If you don't have much in common
Even if you're head-over-heels mad about someone, different generations grow up in different worlds, and you might find you don't share much common ground. This isn't always a bad thing - nobody remembers most of their childhood anyway - but some of the things that separate you could be significant.
If they're holding you back
They may be settled and have their life all planned out, but don't waste your younger years somewhere you don't want to be. You should be able to live your life and not have anyone hold you back.
If they don't get along with your friends
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This can be tricky. If they do get on with your friends, you're lucky!! Chances are a bunch of twenty-somethings don't want to hang around with a forty-year-old. However, if you and your mates are mature enough, this shouldn't be too much of an issue.
If you can't see yourself with them in the future
You may be in love now, but if you can't see yourself with them in ten years, it's worth taking a step back to decide if the relationship is really worthwhile. If you're happy, go for it, but you might end up changing your mind!
If you worry you're being judged
This can be a big issue. If you're in a happy relationship, you shouldn't worry about what people think. But if you feel like the people you love are judging you, they may just be worried for you. Eventually, if you are confident in yourself and in your relationship, they'll stop worrying. However, if you can't get over the age gap, this may cause tension and could break you apart.
If you feel immature compared to them
If you're still laughing at Adventure Time and your partner has never heard of it, it could make you feel isolated and immature. There's no need for you to be embarrassed about liking cartoons at twenty. If they make you feel bad about who you are, you should move on.
...Money
Money is a very common reason many couples fight, divorce or break up. Often, with a big age gap, there will also be a big financial gap between you and your partner. For some, this isn't a problem, but make sure you're on a similar wavelength when it comes to travelling and treating yourselves.
